If you’ve been single for a long time, you can wonder how couples even meet each other and fall in love. Friends make it look so easy — they went on a first date, they went on several more dates, and soon they were in love and now maybe they’re even engaged. The movies make it look simple, too: you have a cool meeting in a coffee shop or on the street and then it’s all perfect (well, besides all the obstacles, but you know that movie magic will happen by the end).
There are a lot of reasons why you haven’t met your perfect guy yet and found love, and your zodiac sign has a lot to do with it. There might be something that you’re doing (or not doing) that is making it tough for you to stay in a relationship or even find a guy who you want to go on more than the first date with. If your dream is to find love and the right person to share your life with, that’s definitely not the best news ever. It’s not even okay news. It’s the worst.
Read on to find out how not to be the woman who can’t find love, based on your zodiac sign!
16Water Signs (Scorpio, Pisces, Cancer): Don’t Dwell On Negative Feelings And Move On
Some people are naturally sunny and always in a good mood. Others just aren’t like that. But no matter what kind of personality you have, it’s easy to get into a funk and stay in a bad mood for days. If you don’t actively try to be in a better mood and focus on the positive things in your life, you really can stay annoyed and angry. There is always something that is going to upset you and make you feel bad.
If you’re a water sign, then dwelling on negative feelings is something that is stopping you from finding love. You definitely want to learn to stop doing this so you can move on whenever you have an unpleasant dating experience or a fight with your boyfriend or the guy that you just started seeing.
There’s no reason to be in a dark cloud all the time, and it won’t make it easy for someone to date you. Once you’re upset with something that your boyfriend has done, work through it and talk about it, and then move on. You don’t have to ignore your feelings or thoughts about a situation — just don’t let your negativity and hurt take over.
15Scorpio: Teach Yourself Not To Get So Jealous
Scorpios can be really jealous, and that’s never going to be a good thing, but it’s especially bad in a relationship. Your green-eyed monster tendencies just might be ruining your chance at finding love, so it’s a good idea to nip this in the bud. Figure out why you’re acting this way. If you were cheated on in the past, then sure, it makes sense, but that doesn’t mean that every guy will do that.
If finding love is something that appeals to you (and it probably does), then you can start by teaching yourself to not get so jealous. This definitely ruins relationships and makes it hard for people to trust you since they assume that you’re just going to get jealous all the time… and since you can’t trust them, either, it’s just a big mess.
It won’t be easy to stop yourself from wondering if your boyfriend’s female coworker is hitting on him or if he’s got a crush on his female friend or wants to get back together with his ex-girlfriend. But it’s really the only way to ensure that you’re going to be able to sustain a happy and healthy relationship. Without learning how to trust guys and believe that they have eyes only for you, this is always going to be a problem, and you won’t be happy in your relationship.
14Pisces: Stop Taking Rejection (And Everything Else) So Personally
You’ll never find love if you’re so sensitive and emotional all the time. You have to accept that you’re going to face rejection in your dating life and be okay with that. Since you’re a Pisces sign, you’re emotional and it’s tough for you to do this, but it’s necessary if you want to find love.
No one is perfect and people might make jokes on a first or second date that aren’t meant to be harmful in any way but you take the wrong way for whatever reason. You don’t have to decide then and there that you’ll never see this guy again and get really upset. Once you can chill out a bit about these types of things, you’ll get to know people instead of making snap decisions about them.
Everyone gets rejected, whether it’s a dream job that they really want or a person that they wish could be their boyfriend or girlfriend, so becoming cool with rejection is an important and awesome skill. You won’t be sorry that you figured out how to not even sweat it, and before you know it, you won’t be rejected at all and will be blissfully happy and dating your dream guy.
13Cancer: Say Yes To Every Party And Event Invite
This sign tends to be a homebody, so this is your biggest problem when it comes to your love life.
You’re always more excited by the prospect of an evening at home, getting all comfy and watching a favorite movie or a TV show that you can’t get enough of right now. While it’s great to chill out and it’s awesome that you’ve created a relaxing sanctuary in your home, that won’t help you meet the love of your life.
If you want to change things and not become the woman who can’t find love, then say yes to every party and event invite. This will be hard at first and feel weird since it will go against every instinct that you have, but fight against that and it’ll become much easier. You might not love every party (because, hey, no one does, since parties can be truly dull) but you will get into the habit of being open to meeting new people and having new experiences. So many couples meet at a party or through mutual friends, so this just might be how you meet your one true love. Being more social can’t hurt, anyway. There will always be evenings where you can chill out at home.
12Earth Signs (Capricorn, Virgo, Taurus): Listen To Your Gut/Get Out Of A Bad Situation That Doesn’t Make Sense
Earth signs are practical and down-to-earth signs, which makes sense given the name. This makes you a logical person who can make decisions (maybe with a Rory Gilmore-style pro and con list) and figure things out easily.
The one thing that is stopping you from finding love has a lot to do with listening to your gut instincts and getting out of a bad relationship or dating situation. If the way that someone is treating you doesn’t make sense to you, or there’s something sketchy and strange about the way that they’re living their life, you need to listen to yourself. You don’t have to make excuses for them or think that you should be more tolerant. It’s on them, not you, and you deserve to be in a healthy, happy relationship. When you’re with someone who is the right guy, it should be natural and easy, and you shouldn’t have to convince yourself that things are good.
It will be tough at first to move on from guys who you liked but knew were wrong for you, but over time, this will get much easier and will feel like second nature. And you’ll be so glad that you stopped wasting time with guys who were wrong since it will allow you to find someone who is right.
11Capricorn: Let Go Of Your Expectations
This is a sign that cares a lot about tradition, but it’s not always possible to get exactly what you want and expect to happen when it comes to your love life.
Yes, you like tradition, so you’re probably all about a serious relationship that involves meeting each other’s families and friends, moving in together, getting engaged, getting married, and having kids… all within a timeline that you pick and that you want to follow. You might even have a timeline in your head before you even meet the guy that you want to do all of those things with.
There’s nothing wrong with wanting any or all of that stuff. The only problem is having super high expectations that the guy that you’re with might not be able to meet. Life is complicated and busy and maybe moving in together within the timeframe that you want isn’t possible, along with planning a wedding when you’re both changing jobs or something like that. Let go of your expectations and realize that a relationship doesn’t need to be perfect (or perfectly traditional). This is the one thing that you can do if you want to find real love, which you most likely do, right?
10Virgo: Ask Guys Out Instead Of Waiting For Them To Ask You
Virgos are shy and quiet, so you might not be in the habit of asking guys out. Not everyone likes doing that and a lot of girls prefer to wait for guys that they like to ask them on a date.
The problem with that, of course, is that you might miss out on a really amazing guy. If you like someone, ask them out. This is the one change that you can make to ensure that you find love. It’s more common than you might think for the girl to be the one who asks the guy out, and you just might know some couples where this was what happened. There’s nothing to be ashamed of. It’s totally fine for the girl to ask the guy on a first date. In fact, guys think it’s pretty awesome and like a confident girl who takes the pressure off of them since they feel like society expects them to do everything.
There’s no reason not to do this. Your reasoning might be that you could get rejected, but if someone says no, just move on to the next guy. It’s not a big deal since you don’t even know him and you’re not in a serious relationship yet. Nothing ventured, nothing gained, as people say.
9Taurus: Forgive More Easily And Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff In The Early Days Of A Relationship
You’ve definitely heard that you’re stubborn if your zodiac sign is Taurus, and it’s the most obvious thing about you. No matter how hard you’ve tried, you probably can’t stop being so stubborn since that’s not generally how this works. It’s a cycle: someone tells you that you’re stubborn, you say that you’re not because people always deny it, you keep being stubborn, and so on and so on.
Since you’re so stubborn, you find it tough to forgive people, and that can make being in a relationship really difficult for you. If this is your zodiac sign, then you want to forgive people much more easily. You can’t break up with a guy because he made a small, silly mistake or get mad at him and risk losing him. Well, you technically can, but you shouldn’t do that to yourself because then you won’t find love.
You also have to stop sweating the small stuff in the early days of a relationship. Nothing is as big a deal as it seems, and with some hindsight, you’ll be able to look back and realize that. Just focus on getting to know the guy and figuring out if he’s the right one for you.
8Fire Signs (Leo, Sagittarius, Aries): Don’t Let Passion Cloud Your Judgement
Fire signs are super passionate, which you can probably guess from the title. If you’re a Leo, Sagittarius, or Aries, then you don’t have a problem with finding passion in a relationship or working out your feelings for someone. You have the opposite problem where passion can cloud your judgment and make you stay in a relationship or romantic situation that isn’t the best thing for you.
If this is you, then the one thing that you have to do to ensure that you find love is to stop letting passion dictate who you date and stay with. It doesn’t matter if you have an amazing intimate relationship with a guy or if you both are really attracted to each other and have the best chemistry ever. If he’s just plain mean or you don’t love him, you have to walk away. You deserve to be with someone who you care about and who can be a real partner.
Yes, passion is important, and you shouldn’t date someone who you don’t feel anything for. You just want to make sure that you have a lot of things in common. It’s important and a good idea to have a healthy, happy, well-rounded relationship.
7Leo: Be Less Selfish And Think About The Other Person
As a Leo, you can be conceited and selfish, and while you don’t think that this is a bad thing (since you’re so confident), it can really wreck havoc on your love life.
If you’re selfish when you’re single, it’s not the biggest problem ever. Sure, it kind of makes you a bit of a mean dude, and people might not enjoy hanging out with you. Your friends and family won’t love making plans with you since you’ll never be happy with whatever they have planned and you won’t be in a good mood unless whatever you’re doing was your idea and yours alone. But at least you’re not breaking anyone’s heart or upsetting them.
When you start dating someone, though, this all changes, and you can really ruin things. If you want to find love and stop sabotaging yourself, you definitely need to be less selfish and think more about the other person. Otherwise, you’ll always be alone because guys will always wonder why you’re being such a diva and they’ll think that you care more about yourself than you care about them. That be a real shame since you deserve to find real love, just like everyone else does.
6Sagittarius: Believe That Love Is Just As Important As Traveling And Living Your Life
As a Sagittarius, travel is your middle name… and your first… and your last. You’re crazy in love with travel… and not so big on falling in actual love.
That needs to change if you want to stop being the woman who can’t find love. Until you realize that love is just as important as traveling and living your life, that just won’t happen. Sure, you might not think that finding a partner and being in a relationship is a priority, and that might be the case for a while. But you might change your mind about finding love in the future and you don’t want to have rejected a lot of guys who could have been amazing boyfriends. And maybe you could have even met the guy who was meant to be your husband.
There’s no reason that you can’t enjoy your life, have fun, travel, and still be open to finding someone to share everything with. You don’t have to choose between love and being someone who loves to travel and is full of wanderlust. That would be so boring and you’re definitely not a dull person. If you want a full, interesting life, then be open to finding the right guy along with your next adventure.
5Aries: Take Things Slow/Don’t Jump To Conclusions About People
Being an Aries means that you’re a passionate person, for better and for worse. You can be full of life but you can also feel things so strongly that you get into a negative headspace for way too long and people wonder why you just can’t snap out of it.
If you don’t want to be the woman who can’t find love, you have to think about the habits that you have when you’re in a relationship or just beginning to date someone. Since this is your zodiac sign, you tend to be someone who thinks and acts very quickly. You’re not someone who takes things slow in any area of your life, so your love life definitely isn’t any different.
You should take things slow when you meet a guy that you like. You also shouldn’t jump to any conclusions about him until you really get to know him and have all of the necessary information. Before thinking that you would never be happy with him or could never fall in love with him, go on a few more dates and give it just a bit more time. You might be pleasantly surprised and you might be able to find love this time.
4Air Signs (Aquarius, Gemini, Libra): Think More About What You Want Out Of The Relationship
Air signs have been said to be very interested in what other people say and think. If you’re a Gemini, Aquarius, or Libra, then you’re probably not someone who lives by their gut instinct. You ask people for advice on a regular basis and might even find it tough to make decisions.
Everyone should be able to work on their flaws or the mistakes that they usually make in relationships and still find love. You can, too. If you’re an Air sign, then spend a bit more time thinking about what you want out of the relationship. You can definitely be a bit selfish because you need to be happy and feel that this is the right thing for you and the right person for you to be dating.
Don’t feel guilty if you go on a few dates with a guy and realize that he’s not the one for you. Sure, he might be upset if he really liked you and felt that things were going well, but you don’t have to date someone just because they’ve got feelings for you. Listen to yourself and do what feels like the best thing for you and you really can find love.
3Aquarius: Give People More Of A Chance
Being an Aquarius sign means that you get bored easily, which is both a good and a bad thing. It’s good since you have a zest for life and like to learn, but it’s bad because you can’t find love if you get bored so easily and quickly. You have to get to know someone.
Of course, you want to find the guy that you choose to date and spend time with totally fascinating. Spending hours upon hours with someone isn’t going to magically make them more interesting. But dismissing guys after a first or second date isn’t going to help you find love, and this might be the problem that you’ve had in your love life up until now.
Finding love isn’t going to be super hard for you. All you have to do is give people more of a chance. Don’t approach a first date like the guy has to absolutely wow and amaze you or you’ll never see him again — if you like someone and are curious about them, give it a few more dates and see how you feel. This is a smart approach since you will give everyone that you meet more of a chance and you’ll definitely know when you meet the right guy.
2Gemini: Date Guys That You Actually Like/Not Because You Don’t Want To Be Alone
Gemini signs aren’t super interested in being alone. This can make you date someone for that reason and not because you really like them and think that they’re making your life so much better.
The goal for you as a Gemini is to date guys that you actually like. Forget not wanting to be alone and remember that you’re going to be happier if you’re single than if you’re in a relationship that is miserable, even if you’re not so sure about that at first. It’s not an easy lesson to learn, especially if you’re used to always being a girlfriend, but it’s much better to be a girlfriend when you really care about the guy who is your boyfriend.
Sure, always having a guy in your life might mean that you never have to hang out by yourself… but it won’t mean that you’re happy or in real love. If finding real love is your dream, then focus on finding a guy whose personality meshes well with yours and who you just can’t live without. You will honestly know the difference once you start dating someone like this and you won’t believe that you ever dated just to date before.
1Libra: Be Honest About Your Feelings And When There’s A Problem
Libras don’t like to have arguments or any kind of conflict, and while that’s usually a positive thing, it’s not so great in a relationship.
People might disagree on whether you really have a honeymoon period in the early days of your relationship. but no matter what you think about this, you definitely agree that problems happen in even the best relationships. It’s not possible or realistic to think that things will always be perfect and romantic and magical, despite how awesome that would be. That’s a movie, not reality… and even movies have conflict and tension to keep the story going and the audience interested.
When something comes up in your relationship, you need to be honest about your feelings. You can’t be scared to bring it up to your boyfriend and have a real discussion. This is the thing that is stopping you from finding love, so since you probably want to have love in your life, this is exactly what you should be working on. Learning to talk about your emotions and not be scared of upsetting other people or thinking about negative feelings is a good skill, anyway. This will help you find love and also improve your life in every possible way, which is a nice bonus.